Article Posted by Sherri Sacconaghi, on September 12th, 2011
People are not perfect and we should not pretend to be. We worry too much about what other people think of us and less about what we think of ourselves. The result is that we start living an inauthentic life.
In my 20’s I worried too much about having the right clothes or the right car. In my 30’s I felt my house always had to be clean in case someone stopped by, or my kids had to be perfectly behaved or someone might think I was a bad mom. Now in my 40’s my house is in constant disarray and my kids have been known to say things that could make your jaw drop. I’m becoming okay with that. Not only have I stopped worrying so much about what other people think of me , I have actually started indulging in guilty little pleasures every once and while that make me happy. Little activities that, a few years ago, would have me worried people would think I was lazy or scatter brained. Turns out these little bouts of “being bad” have made me a happier wife, mother and Health Coach. It has helped me put myself back in charge of my life. It is not about pleasing other people all the time. It is sometimes about pleasing ourselves.
Breaking free from the everyday restrictions we put on ourselves can have health benefits too. Such things such as taking a 20 minute power nap can lower stress levels, reducing the risk of heart attack and stroke. Checking out of the office for a business meeting and getting a pedicure instead can recharge your batteries allowing you to be more productive when you return to the office. And allowing a little dark chocolate in your diet stimulates endorphins that can boost your mood.
Notice that adding a little “bad” into your life does not have to be a big production. It can be something that makes you feel happy, something you enjoy doing. Something that makes you feel like you are in control of your life.
So what does being bad mean to you? Sleeping in late on weekends? Watching a Kardashians marathon instead of grocery shopping? Shutting your office door when your chatty co worker is heading your way? If you have a good one, please share.
Find a way to implement a little “bad” into your week and see how good it feels.
Article by: Sherri Sacconaghi
Certified Health Coach and Personal Fitness Trainer
Ph: 503 621 7549